Egregoros

@ug the point of sex is to express love, but real love is not dependent on sex, just like its not dependent on monetary gifts or flattering words. charitas/agape/prema isnt that hard to understand. do you love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return? or do you love them because they provide you with something, like sex? even loving someone because they make you feel good isnt real love. Gods love is real love, like the love of a good mother. for a good mother, her child can hate her and shell still love her child, because her love is pure love. if you have sex for sex and not for pure love, you are inherently self-interested, and bind yourself, even if someone elses interests happen to align with yours. wanting what's in someone's best interest is part of love, but having the same interests as someone isnt the same as wanting their best interest. "I want this, and you also want it, so I can have it" is very different from "I want this because its best for both of us". and I should say, sex based purely on sexual desire aka casual sex is not in the best interests of anyone.