quick clarification in case anyone is confused:
referring to an individual you don't know by "they/them" pronouns, because you don't know which ones to use: good, do this
referring to a trans woman by "they/them" pronouns specifically only after finding out she was trans, when you were using "she/her" pronouns before that (or vice versa for trans men, going from "he/him"): that is a microagression
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1confusedly switching between "he/him" and "she/her" with a nonbinary person and expecting them to correct you first, before exasperatedly asking them what they want: i'm not mad but it's happened twice and i'm just befuddled honestly
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@eri@mk.moth.zone I get such validation out of this one happening to me sometimes, and I always just giggle and go "iunno~" when they ask, it's become an inside joke with my friends.