Egregoros

quick clarification in case anyone is confused:

referring to an individual you don't know by "they/them" pronouns, because you don't know which ones to use: good, do this

referring to a trans woman by "they/them" pronouns specifically only after finding out she was trans, when you were using "she/her" pronouns before that (or vice versa for trans men, going from "he/him"): that is a microagression